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I used to be scared of practically everything. I’ve had panic attacks over everything from death and dying to buying the wrong peanut butter. My biggest fear in my whole life was elevators and I didn’t step a foot in one for over six years. Now I work on the 5th floor of a hospital and I take the elevator multiple times a day (I try to take the stairs for exercise but my laziness gets me). I hated that my fear had power over where I could and couldn’t go. If you have a fear that is affecting your life think about trying to take some steps to tackle it. I know it can seem overwhelming and impossible to overcome fear but it isn’t. Think about all the people that have conquered their fears and let that inspire you.
If you go through life never challenging yourself and staying in your comfort zone you aren’t going to grow into the bad ass B you were meant to be. If you’re scared to be uncomfortable you are going to miss out on so many opportunities that life has for you. Don’t let fear stop you from doing things you want to do. Challenging yourself by doing something that scares the f#$% out of you will teach you coping skills and you’ll be better equipped to handle the future stress that pops up in your life. It’s like practice for when the shit hits the fan. Plus, if you always do things that are easy your life is going to be freaking boring.
Being well prepared can help calm your nerves. Do some research about the scary thing you want to take on. Spend some time googling or watching YouTube videos. Talk to other people who have done the thing that scares you. Being prepared can help alleviate some of the worry and fear you have because you will know what to expect. Write out a list of all the things that scare you and then write our why you don’t need to have those fears. Spend some time addressing your own concerns so you are prepared to tackle them.
Pretend It Doesn’t Scare You
When I got my tattoo I was terrified. It was something I really wanted but anything needle related makes me extremely anxious. However, when I walked into the tattoo shop I pretended I wasn’t completely freaking out inside. I wanted to break down crying but I just walked in there and tried to look like I wasn’t that scared. If I had let myself fall apart in a crying mess I probably would have gotten myself worked up and felt even worse. Sometimes pretending you already feel how you want to feel can help get you on the right track..
Think About the End Result
Think about why you want to get over your fear and how it will benefit you. If you’re scared of flying going on an airplane can open the doors for lots of future traveling. Ask yourself why you want to do the scary thing and write down the reasons. Think about how amazing you are going to feel afterward when you have accomplished your goal even though it scared the heck out of you. I was SO happy when I got my tattoo. It was something I had really wanted and I finally had it! The fact that I conquered a huge fear was an awesome feeling.
Ask for Support
Sometimes just admitting your scared can help. Ask a friend or family member to go with you. Let them know that your scared and why. Be picky about the people you ask for support, though. Think about the person in your life that makes you feel inspired and empowered. They are the person you want to confide in. If you don’t have the right support person hire a professional. You can read my article about going to the therapist here. Don’t let yourself near people who will feed your fear or take away your empowerment.
Adult life can be freaking boring. Can you imagine how fulfilled you will feel if you stay in your comfort zone doing the same old thing all the time just because it’s easy? Conquering a fear can be exciting and it’s a totally bad ass thing to do. If you’re in a funk sometimes overcoming a fear can shake things up. I’m not talking about being reckless, I’m just talking about the excitement of being outside your comfort zone.
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