The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck on Audible (review)

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I had just finished You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life and I love self help books so I was looking for something similar to read. I ended up picking
subtle art of not giving a fuck on Audible

subtle art of not giving a fuck on Audible


I really enjoyed this book and thought it had a unique style. There are so many self help books about happiness that feel really superficial to me. This book made me feel inspired in an authentic way that didn’t feel fake or cheesy. However, if you don’t like profanity you will not like this book. It is packed full of F-bombs. This was the first book I picked out from audible and enjoyed listening to the audio a lot more than I thought I would. I listened to it with headphones on while I raked all the leaves out of my yard and I found it really relaxing. I love when you find multitasking that actually works. I listened to my book while I was doing annoying everyday tasks like doing the dishes or putting on my makeup. I find making good use of my time really satisfying. Honestly, I originally signed up for the free trial because I wanted to get free books (you can get two free books just for signing up) and I was planning on cancelling it. However, I finished this whole book in a week while doing household chores. I think it’s a great use of time and I’ve decided to keep my subscription for now.

 

Here are some of my favorite quotes from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. If you want to sign up for a free audible trial and check it out for free click here. You can also check out Mark’s blog post about not giving a fuck

“Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.”

“Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about the pain, you become unstoppable.”

“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.”

“Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame. Pain is an inextricable thread in the fabric of life, and to tear it out is not only impossible, but destructive: attempting to tear it out unravels everything else with it. To try to avoid pain is to give too many fucks about pain. In contrast, if you’re able to not give a fuck about the pain, you become unstoppable.”
“Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.”

“Unhealthy love is based on two people trying to escape their problems through their emotions for each other—in other words, they’re using each other as an escape. Healthy love is based on two people acknowledging and addressing their own problems with each other’s support.”

“Because when we give too many fucks, when we choose to give a fuck about everything, then we feel as though we are perpetually entitled to feel comfortable and happy at all times, that’s when life fucks us.”

“You and everyone you know are going to be dead soon. And in the short amount of time between here and there, you have a limited amount of fucks to give. Very few, in fact. And if you go around giving a fuck about everything and everyone without conscious thought or choice—well, then you’re going to get fucked.”

“Our crisis is no longer material; it’s existential, it’s spiritual. We have so much fucking stuff and so many opportunities that we don’t even know what to give a fuck about anymore.”

“Travel is a fantastic self-development tool, because it extricates you from the values of your culture and shows you that another society can live with entirely different values and still function and not hate themselves. This exposure to different cultural values and metrics then forces you to reexamine what seems obvious in your own life and to consider that perhaps it’s not necessarily the best way to live.”

If you decide to read the book let me know what you think! I thought it had a lot of fresh perspective and found it pretty inspirational. Self help is a hard market to standout in and I thought this book did a good job offering something unique and fresh. I’m on the hunt for a new self-help book so let me know what you think I should read next.

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