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Everyone goes through times in their life where they feel lonely. Whether you move to a new place or go through a breakup it’s easy to feel isolated. If you’re dealing with depression and anxiety on top of that it can get really overwhelming. I’ve gone through tons of transitions in my life where I felt completely alone. Here are my tips for feeling less lonely.
Admitting that your lonely can make you feel really vulnerable but if you don’t admit that you need help nothing will change. Let your friends and family know how you’re feeling and ask to make plans with them. If you’ve lost touch with old friends reach out to them and see if you can reconnect with them. If you don’t have anyone you want to reconnect with then make an effort to meet new people. Use meetup.com or sign up for some sort of class where you can meet new people.
If loneliness is feeding your depression reach out and get help. I use BetterHelp to get therapy online and I recommend trying it if you’re really struggling. If you feel depressed there are professionals that can help you, don’t wait to get help. My biggest regret is that I waited so long to find a therapist and get help for my depression. I spent years waiting for it to get better and pretending I was fine. Not only did I waste years of my life needlessly suffering I also missed out on tons of opportunities and relationships.
Adopt a Pet
Rescuing my dog Charlie was the best thing I ever did for myself. I got him during the most difficult time of my life. My close friend had just passed away and I was depressed AF. Charlie has been a huge comfort to me over the last two and a half years I’ve had him. He makes living alone way less lonely and I’m always happy to come home and see him or to spend time hanging out with him at home. You have to make sure that you are able to take care of the pet that you get but it is definitely worth it.
State of Mind
Work on reframing your mind and to try and make your situation into a positive. After I broke up with my boyfriend I was really lonely but I decided to use the time as an opportunity to work on myself. I listened to personal development books at night and signed up for dance classes after work. Being lonely is a difficult feeling but if you can focus on using the extra time to work on your personal development or try something new. Learn how to cook really incredible food or signup to run a marathon. If you can start to see your alone time as a blessing it can help alleviate some of the loneliness.
If you’re feeling lonely find a cause to get involved in. Getting involved with something in your community can help make you feel connected to other people. Find an organization that you think does really important work and find out if they have a volunteer program you can join. I used to volunteer at Habitat for Humanity and it was a great way to have something meaningful to go do on the weekend. Volunteering can give you a purpose and a reason to get out of the house.
Start a Project
I started this blog at a super low time of my life. My 9-5 job was grinding me down and I had just broke up with my boyfriend after the holidays. I felt like I needed a project or something to focus on. I decided to start Radical Transformation Project to share my experiences with depression and anxiety. This blog has been a HUGE blessing in my life. I feel like my life and experiences have a purpose and being able to help other people means the world to me. Having a project to work on can be a great distraction and give you a meaningful way to spend your time.
I am not a licensed therapist. If you are suffering from a major disorder and need treatment please seek the help of a professional. If you need help finding a mental health care provider call 1-800-662-HELP (4357) or visit BetterHelp to talk to a certified therapist online at an affordable price. You can download a free printable list of hotlines here and join the free mental health support group on Facebook here. This post contains affiliate links, you can read my full disclosure policy here.
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