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Mindset Shifts to Cope with a Breakup


I’m sure I don’t have to tell you there are times in life when things don’t go our way.

We don’t get the job we want.

Our boyfriend breaks up with us over a text message.

We don’t get invited to a party.

We don’t get the promotion.

We don’t get the grade.

I don’t think I need to go on, you get the idea. 

It sucks when things don’t go our way and while we can’t choose what happens to us we do get to decide what these events mean. 

A lot of you know that my boyfriend broke up with me with a text message last week. I don’t get to decide whether we stay together or not but I do get to decide what our separation means. 

Initially, I told a lot of negative victim based stories. 

“How could he do this to me? Men are terrible. I’m always going to be alone. Everyone leaves me”. You get the idea. It felt pretty terrible to be honest and I spent a few days dwelling in these thoughts and making myself more and more upset. 

Eventually, I decided to give our separation a different meaning. 

He had to leave my life so that someone better could come in. 

This breakup is the Universe protecting me from wasting time with the wrong person. 

I am destined for a bigger and better love story. 

I am going to have a relationship that is better than I ever imagined.

The right person for me is already on the way. 

I am the luckiest girl in the world and things always work out for my highest good.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m still sad. However, the whole experience feels much more empowering than it did before. 

Remember, no matter what happens you get to choose how you see it. You’re the one that gives it meaning. 

You’re the boss.

You decide.

Have a great evening,



I shared more about the mindset shifts I am using to move through this breakup over on the podcast. I am getting so close to my goal of 100 reviews so if you like it and would review it on iTunes I would be deeply appreciative!

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