I got broken up with this week. My boyfriend went to Australia on a work trip and texted me that he didn’t want to be together anymore.
I was so sad and hurt that he wanted to break up and that he told me that way. It sent me on an emotional rollercoaster and I was flooded with troll thoughts.
“You’re not good enough”
“He never even liked you”
“Noone will ever like you”
That went on for longer than I would like to admit. It’s one thing to manage troll thoughts when you’re having a good day but it’s another when you get broken up with out of nowhere via text message.
The truth is, I didn’t redirect them right away. I wallowed and I got raging mad. I cried and packed up all of his things.
Now though I’m ready to start shifting out of this. I know that even painful experiences can be useful and can help you grow
Here are two questions I’ve been asking myself to keep the troll thoughts from running wild.
Is this true? Could I defend this in a court of law? Is it an indisputable fact?
Is this helpful? Does this belief feel aligned with who I want to be? Is there something that would feel better instead?
If you’re walking through you’re own struggle right now here are some of the beliefs I am choosing that are helping me right now.
I’m choosing to know and believe that this is working for my highest good.
Things always work out for me in the end.
I am divinely protected and this person is being cleared out of my life for a reason
Something better is already on the way
I am worthy of love and happiness just as I am
Have a great weekend,
If you’re interested I filmed a video about the breakup and the mindset shifts I’ve been having. It is over in the Radical Transformation Facebook group.
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