How To Create The Life You Want To Live
There was a time when I was so depressed I couldn’t even imagine a better future for myself. I felt trapped and like I would be depressed forever. Giving myself permission to daydream and to create a vision for the future has really helped my mental health. I hold onto my vision on bad days and it helps me get a little work done even when things are really difficult and I’m not feeling great. I use my dreams to motivate me to keep going and to help lift me up when I’m feeling down.
I love following badass ladies that are killing it on Instagram. It really inspires me to see them going about their day to day life. Following ladies that are living my dream life helps me have a really clear vision of exactly what I want my future to look like. I know a lot of people talk about feeling jealous when they see other people living fabulous lives on Instagram but I challenge you to see it a different way. Instead of feeling upset that you don’t have the life the other person is living get excited about what the future has in store for you. I always feel really inspired when I see women living incredible lives because I know if they can do it that means it is possible for me too.
Here are some inspirational accounts to follow:
Journal on these prompts to help you dream bigger.
If a magic genie appeared and granted you unlimited wishes what would you ask for?
If you won the lottery and won a billion dollars what would you do with the money?
What do you want more of in your life?
What are you no longer available for?
I love creating vision boards and it really helps to make my goals even clearer in my mind. Plus I love the ritual of finding the perfect pictures, printing them out and putting them together in a board. It’s so nice to have a visual representation of your dream life and goals you can see every single day. If cutting out pictures isn’t your jam you can save the images and then use Canva to create a desktop and phone background. I love making vision boards because it really helps me know exactly what I am trying to achieve and what it will look like when I get there. It’s just another way of getting really clear about the life you are trying to create and where you are going. If you need some vision board inspiration check out the video below.
Visualizing your dream life is only the first part. Once you are really clear about what you want you need to sit down and make a plan of all the action you need to take. It can be overwhelming to think about taking action but breaking your plan down into small steps can help make it feel more attainable. What can you do this month to get closer to your vision? What can you do this week? What can you do today? I like to keep track of all the action steps I want to take in my journal. At the end of each month, I take time to reflect on what action steps I complete, what worked, what didn’t and made a strategy for the next month. I believe having a planner system that works for you is vital for keeping track of all your goals and to-do lists. You can grab the daily planner I created and use here. It doesn’t matter what you use as long as it works for you and you use it every day.
Going after big dreams can be really difficult and if other people in your life aren’t on a similar path it can be lonely. See if you can find some Facebook groups to join that have other women on a similar journey. Connecting with ambitious women online has really helped me while I am building my business because I have people that really “get it” I can vent to or bounce ideas off of. The internet has made it easier than ever to connect with people from all over the world. Spend some time online to find your tribe. When I decided to become a fulltime blogger I didn’t know a single person that was making a living online. Now I have dozens of friends that I have made online that are fulltime bloggers. Being able to get support from people on a similar path really helped me keep going when things were hard and my dream felt far away. See if you can find support online from someone that is already living your dream life. If you’re looking for a Facebook group of amazing women to join come over and check out my Mental Health Support group. The women in the group are really positive and supportive and we will be happy to cheer you on if you need some encouragement while you create your dream life.
Investing in your dreams is a great way to really start believing in yourself. What would you do if you really believed you would be successful? I was able to grow an online business and quit my job in less than ten months because I invested in the courses and resources I needed to make progress. As I’ve grown I’ve also invested in coaches, live events and programs to help me make my dream life a reality. If you don’t have a lot of extra money brainstorm some small investments you can make in your dream life. Maybe start out with a book or some supplies you need and move into investing in courses or whatever it is to help you live out your dream life. My favorite service for audio and ebooks is Scribd which lets me listen to unlimited ebooks for $8.99 per month. It’s like Netflix for books! I have been able to learn so much by listening to audiobooks and reading ebooks on this site and I think this is a great place to start and you can get 30 days for free here. The truth is if you really want to go after your dreams you are going to have to invest time and probably some money in them too. The money I have invested in myself has truly been the best use of my money and I am so thankful I went ahead and did it. When I took my first blogging course I was so scared I was going to end up wasting my money. Now, I have a blog that is read by over 100,000 people and I am able to blog for a living full time! None of this would have been possible if I hadn’t invested time and money in going after my dream,
Figure It Out
Maybe some people know exactly what their dream job is but that wasn’t the case for me. I spent a lot of time thinking about what I wanted to do with my life and how I wanted to spend my time. My main criteria were being my own boss, helping other people and being location free. If you don’t know what you’re dream job is write out all the criteria you would want in a job and once you have your list see if you can figure out careers that have those criteria. Try to prioritize your criteria so you know what is a priority for you in your job search and what is just a nice bonus. Let yourself daydream about what your perfect work day would look like. What hours would you work? What would your office be like? Who would you work with? What would you spend your day doing? Once you have a really clear idea of what you want your workday to look like it will be easier to start creating your dream life.
Thinking Outside of the Box
It’s important to think outside the box and not limit yourself. If I hadn’t been willing to think about alternative career choices I would never have figured out that I wanted to be a fulltime blogger. Spend some time looking up jobs online in places you wouldn’t normally look. Once you open up your mind to alternative careers you have a lot more options than you think. The internet has so many resources and we have more options than ever before. It’s worth it to explore all of the possibilities available to you. There could be a dream job that you don’t even realize exists. Spend some time doing research online and make a list of people that have jobs you would LOVE to have. Try to figure out what skills and experience you would need to have the job that you really truly want.
Going for the Impossible
When I first decided I wanted to be a fulltime blogger it felt impossibly far away. I was building an audience from scratch and learning all the web design and social media skills as I went. It was really overwhelming and I felt like I was trying to climb a huge terrifying mountain. I made a promise to myself that no matter what I wasn’t going to quit. I kept thinking about what my dream job would be like if I managed to make it happen and when I wanted to quit I made myself keep going. I celebrated a lot of small successes along the way and pretty soon I was celebrating larger victories like leaving my job and working for myself fulltime. If you’re interested in starting your own blog check out my cheap ass guide to starting a blog. That post has all the resources and services I used to get my site up and running fast and cheap. I hope whatever your dream job is you decide to freaking go for it. I get to help other people every day by sharing my struggles and experiences with depression and anxiety. Not only that but I get to be my own boss, set my own hours and work from anywhere in the world that I want. I’m truly living my dream and if I can do it you can do it too.
I hope this post inspires you to create the life you want to live. I truly believe you deserve to have the relationships, lifestyle and career that you want. It took me years to figure out what I really wanted and then even longer to finally go after it. Now I am living my dream as a fulltime blogger and I truly have never been happier. I hope this post inspires you to get clear on what you want and go after it. Trust me, creating your dream life is totally worth it!
I am not a licensed therapist or mental health professional. If you are suffering from a major disorder and need treatment please seek the help of a professional. If you need help finding a mental health care provider call 1-800-662-HELP (4357) or visit BetterHelp to talk to a certified therapist online at an affordable price. This post contains affiliate links, you can read my full disclosure policy here.
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